The Christmas period is not always the most wonderful time of the year for families.
Lots of loved-ones will be apart this Christmas due to COVID-19. So, we are asking others to spare a thought for those who are prevented from seeing their children this yuletide.
While it can be joyous for those able to spend time together, for some parents it may be harder if they are apart from their children. The current ‘bubble’ system may also be causing further issues with who in the extended family can meet up too. So, it may not be as simple as children being able to spend time with each of their parents’ relatives during the festivities as this would challenge the three households rule potentially.
Not a normal Christmas
In a normal year, Christmas Day is an occasion that highlights the heartache for those separated from their loved ones. But COVID-19 has added another dimension. It has affected people’s plans to be together at Christmas due to the bubbling system. It’s not just parents who may be suffering, it is also vital to look at everything from the child’s point of view.
The child may have issues related to their behaviour and be feeling insecure because of their parents’ separation or divorce. Now concerns and rows over Christmas could be impacting on them too. Also, experiences of loss can affect how children deal with relationships later in life. So, while it’s not difficult to focus on how you feel as a parent, the child must come first when it comes to making contact arrangements and agreeing who is in a bubble with who this Christmas.
Most separated parents will have already organised the arrangements for the Christmas holiday period. However, for some separated parents the arrangements are still being discussed. Perhaps an agreement feels a long way off, especially with issues related to bubbles and extended families.
Ensure amicable arrangements are made for the festivities.
Christmas is one of the most difficult times of the year for separated parents. We offer some simple and sensible tips to help ensure amicable arrangements are made for the festivities. For example, if you’re not seeing your child on the ‘big day’, think about how and when you will celebrate instead.
Can you have a second ‘Christmas Day’ within the five-day bubble window before or after December 25? Most children are thrilled to have two ‘Christmas Days’. If you wish to see extended family, then this may not be possible in the timeframe available unless both parties can amicably agree on which households these will be.
Always try and think about the arrangements from the children’s perspective. What would work best for them given the restrictions for the festivities?
If you need any more expert help or advice, please get in touch with us by emailing office@childreninthemiddle.co.uk or calling 0117 214 1797.